Before Meeting Your Helpmeet

One definition of a help-meet can be, "a helpful companion or partner, especially one's husband or wife." In the sense of marriage, a help-meet is someone that loves another person, and wants to be with them for the rest of their lives, through thick and thin, to help and comfort them through every step of life. In a Godly relationship, marriage is much different than the normal, everyday marriage. A Godly marriage has God at the center of the marriage. Not only do the two people have to worry about taking care of one another, but they must also make sure that they are living for God, and encouraging each other in their walk with God. Of course, a Godly marriage may take more work because they are following more rules, but having God at the center of one's marriage will be what keeps the two people together, and will continue their love throughout their lives.

Preparing for this type of relationship is very important because a relationship begins before even meeting the other person. You can touch the other person's life without even knowing them, and you can get yourself ready to be a better spouse as well. Here are 5 ways to prepare yourself for this meeting:

1) Love Yourself: Ephesians 2:10- "For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them."

God made us exactly how he wants us to be; even the quirks and imperfections, and they should be honored because they are from God. If we don't love those things about ourselves, how do we expect someone else to love them? By having different qualities that others might not possess, we are special to the world, and someone will adore the qualities that God gives us. 

2) Seek God: Psalms 119:10- "With my whole heart have I sought thee: O let me not wander from thy commandments."

God blesses when we are following Him and His word. If we are to honor Him, He will honor us, and give us a Godly spouse. A strong relationship with God will lead to a great, loving relationship with the right person, because God will be the at the center of it.

3) Pray: Philippians 4:6,7- "Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God."

Finding the person that we will spend the rest of our lives with is one of the biggest decisions that we will ever make, therefore, we need to pray a lot about it. We need to pray that God will lead us and direct us to the person, and that we will be a Godly spouse to whoever it may be. Also, we need to pray dearly for the person we are supposed to be with. It is important to pray about the other person's life and walk with God because this is the person that we will raise a family with, and it's important to know God is the center of their life. 

4) Trust: Proverbs 3:5- "Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding."

Waiting for something so important takes a lot of patience and trust. We must trust that God knows exactly what He's doing, which He does. It's important to have faith in God because He knows what's best for us, while we would mess everything up if we were in control. 

5) Be Pure: Hebrews 13:4- "Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge."

In any Godly relationship, it is super important that purity is a key element. Before marriage, two people that are in a relationship with one another should enter into marriage being pure because this is how God wants it to be. Refraining from immoral behavior will only make the relationship stronger because they are using their strength to wait until marriage, and they are telling one another that they consider each other worthy of waiting for, even before meeting the person they will marry. Waiting for the one, special person to marry, and then being able to act how married couples should, tells the other person that they honor them and God enough to wait. 

While You're Waiting to Get Swept Off Your Feet, Serve God.

1 Corinthians 7:32-35 - "But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:"

1 Corinthians 7:8 - "I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I."

Marriage is a very selfless thing. The two people in the relationship must devote a lot of time and efforts toward their spouse in order to make it work. It's not about the single person anymore, it's about furthering and bettering their relationship with their spouse. Because of this, God gets put on the back burner a lot of the time. The single person no longer has the time that they did to serve God. Instead, they are forced to split their time between God and their spouse. 

The laws of marriage simply does not allow for the type of devotion that God deserves. In Ephesians 5:22, God says, "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord." When God gives us the blessing of marriage, He intends for us to be fully submitted to our spouse as we are towards Him. This doesn't mean to be like their slave, but to consider the other person when making decisions, take care of them when they are sick, be on their team when times get tough, and all the things that we expect a spouse to do. Marriage is meant to provide a help meet for a person. Someone that can be there to help, love, and support one another. God wants a lasting marriage of love, laughter, and joy, which can be found when the two people are fully committed to their marriage, but this type of devotion unfortunately takes a large amount of time away from our walk with God. 

Due to the time that marriage takes away from a relationship with God, God says in His word that it is good to be as He is, unmarried. Now, He doesn't mean that He wants us to stay unmarried forever. God loves marriage. He created marriage to bring two people together, so that they may have someone to share our lives with. God has someone for each person, but He wants us to be fully devoted to Him while we are waiting on that person to be shown to us. We can have a great relationship with God as a married person, but it is much easier to have that great relationship when we are devoted to solely God. We should cherish and take advantage of the time that we have as a single person to fully devote our lives to God while we can. If we have a good relationship with God while we are single, we will have a better relationship with our spouse one day because it will be through the love of God.

Don't waste your time being down about being single, it's the perfect time to get down on your knees and pray.